An Evolving Self

Please watch the videos below and I invite you to share anything you wish about your experiences on the forum or via email.

We explore the power to develop perseverance, resilience and other empowering qualities in order to make a positive difference in our lives and the lives of others.

The potential of the average person is like a huge ocean unsailed, a
new continent unexplored, a world of possibilities waiting to be released and channeled toward some great good. - Brian Tracey


Apple - Here's to the Crazy Ones (1997)

Helpful habits based on our deepest values, rewires our changing brain and it becomes much easier for our actions to be making a positive change. This is where we can really make conscious decisions as to what we wish to change in our lives in order to have the greatest benefit at home, work and the world at large. Unfortunately, we often limit ourselves to certain restrictions we place on ourselves, the “I can’t” messages, while all the time the possibilities are abundant and awaiting our commitment. 

Why do some people see that not achieving a goal as a failure that debilitates, while others see it more as a kind of "research" to learn what might be required in order to reach that goal? Where do these ideas come from? Are they actually true or merely a view, a fabrication based on information, stories or other people’s interpretations?




How Many Times Should You Try Before Success?


Research psychologist, Carol Dweck talks about growth and fixed mindsets. Her research reveals the power of messages and stories accumulated through our life. Well-meaning parents and teachers can be contributing to that success and failure dichotomy. The “praise and blame” approach to discipline and the “reward and punishments” in society can reinforce the idea of success and failure.


We need to describe and recognize the efforts and all that has contributed to the success. This way, we give messages that reassure we believe in our own and/or another’s ability to learn what it takes to reach a goal. Through this process, we then research the skills we can develop to help fulfill our dreams!


How would our lives be different if we viewed ourselves as curious researchers, adventurers traveling through the ups and downs of life, our mission being to discover more about how to make a positive difference in the world? Seeing ourselves in this way cultivates a growth mindset, life-long learners on a journey toward what we really want.


Carol Dweck 'Mindset - the new psychology of success' at Happiness & Its Causes 2013


The skill of self confidence | Dr. Ivan Joseph | TEDxRyersonU

We know from the research that if we hold a view of ourselves as "not capable" we will struggle to break free from that view, like a self-fulfilling prophecy. It most certainly will influence how we might otherwise be able to affect change in a more positive direction. Again, this is having a view of possibility or growth. If we have the attitude of possibility and growth, we empower ourselves to keep learning, to persevere What about competition? Is it helpful or harmful?

Please share your thoughts on the forum


The documentary, ‘Race to Nowhere’

The video represents this culture of rushing. Technology enables us to acquire information is seconds that otherwise would have required us taking hours to research at the library or bookstore. Now we have access to the information in seconds. As discussed in SECOND GATHERING, the instant gratification can be a dilemma on several levels. We want the quick results. If we don’t get them quickly we may not develop the ‘staying power’ of perseverance. Research shows a direct link between delayed gratification and academic achievement. There is also a correlation between the inability to delay gratification and addiction and substance abuse. Mindfulness, reflection and critical thinking, will facilitate our continued learning and develop strength and success. These practices are clearly a helpful remedy to the stress and impatience that may be a consequence of the fast paced world we live I today.


VER VIDEO DALAI LAMA: No self concept

Y. View all the videos and reflect on their content in relation to our "ever- changing and evolving sense of self."
Please share your thoughts on the evolving sense of self as a Mandala Guide,
as well as revisit the importance and influence of our role as Mandala Guides in relation to the "evolving selves" of our children. 

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Be The Change Spend some quality time trying to recognize and being honest about your own strengths and weaknesses....and do something!! Be the change!

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